What do you do when you name your blog The Adored Life and then you go through a time when you realize life isn’t always that grand and sometimes you don’t adore it? I’ve wrestled with this question since I last posted on September 8th. There’s been radio silence on this blog for a while.There’s been eerie silence everywhere in my life. For those of you who have reached out to me, thank you. I’ve started replying to your emails, tweets, messages, everything but simply not known what to say. There have been a lot of changes in my life, especially the last six months. Not all of them have been positive. A great many have been positive. The past month has seen both an incredible amount of good and bad. I’ve had days where I don’t smile at all and wonder how I could ever share the bad times with you.
Bree Aylwin
I have wondered where you have been! I hope all is ok now for you. I know what you mean about the ups and downs. Can get pretty trying at times. You look as gorgeous as always tho:)
http://Www.theurbanumbrella.com
Rachelle (http://pinksole.com/)
I was worried about you, hope you are back for good. All I can say is when things are bad remember they cannot stay bad forever that's the beauty of life, everything must change. xoxo
xo
PinkSole
TaraMixandMatch
Glad to see you're back, let me know if you need anything!
Keit
My life hasn't been that adored lately as well. It sucks, but it shall pass and good things will come again, I guarantee it ^_^ No point in worrying about it! You look incredible in here, adore the plaid shirt and the fancy shoes!
Ginny MyNewFavoriteOutfit
Sorry things haven't been going so well. It will get better, thinking of you until it does.
Laura B
I'm sorry to hear all this! Just remember there is always a light at the end of the tunnel (even if it seems far away). You certainly look amazing! I adore that ring!
Alyssa
Thinking of you–keep your head up and keep smiling! 🙂
Jasmin daily
I literally bounced in my seat I was so excited to see a post from you, thinking of you.
xo, Jasmin
http://www.jasmindaily.com
Closet Fashionista
Oh no! I hope things turn around for you soon! I know how it is, sometimes I go through periods like that myself. It's never fun but always gets better!
Kari
Hang in there, sweet Alissa. Graduation is a huge life change. You've had a structured environment for years where people tell you where to be at a certain time and what you have to accomplish to make it to the next level. Now you're at that next level and those people are no where to be found. It's like they opened this door for you to a hallway with countless other doors, and it's so hard to know which path to take. I'm thinking of you and always here if you want to chat over a boozy snow cone:) This is a difficult time, but I promise it will get easier:)
Dresses & Denim
Hang in there! If bad times never happens we would never truly understand the joys of good times.
http://WWW.DRESSESANDDENIM.COM
Ladies in Navy
i have been so worried about you. i am so so happy to see your beautiful face on the blog and hope that you know that i am always here to send massive rambling emails to in the dead of night and that i'll always respond. thinking of you
ladies in navy
awhite
So glad to see you in my feed again. Fist-pumping because you're a strong woman who can DO THIS. Okay? Okay.
Now get at me so we can hang + do beverages.
-Ashley
http://lestylorouge.com
Jessica
Let's make this happen ASAP! I'm so so glad you're back! I missed those girls and that infectious smile 🙂
26 and Not Counting
Jessica
And by girls, I meant curls. Ohhh, Monday 😉
LyddieGal
I've missed you Alissa! I kept checking my feed, thinking there was some sort of glitch and it wasn't updating. I'm glad to see you back and I know you've had a lot of struggles with what comes next in life, but you are right – you are far from alone. This blog has always been a place where you share both the good and the bad, unabashedly – something I completely respect you for. We will all be here when you are ready to talk about it.
Chic on the Cheap
CompassionateLee 7777777
When you are up to it, please do share! So many of us can relate to the not so positive experiences you've faced. More importantly, we can cheer you on as you experience the breakthroughs and triumphs that come out of the not so good times…Wishing you the best life possible, Alissa 🙂
http://lovecompassionatelee.squarespace.com/
gigglechamp.com
So happy to see you back! Hope everything is good for now! 🙂
Sabrina
http://www.gigglechamp.com
kate @ a journey in style
I can totally relate– my blog used to be called a journey in effortless style, and I had hit a point where nothing in my life was effortless- not even getting dressed. So I changed it. But I send you nothing but the best!
Kate @ A Journey in Style
Whitney James
Glad to see you back, my dear. Take it one day at a time and things will fall in place eventually. Sending hugs your way…xo!
~Whitney
Andi
It's good to see your smiling face again! I've wondered what was going on with you. I hope things get better. And not to be too cheesy, but I think the blog name still works out. Life is good even when it's not perfect. So I think the Adored Life can just mean you choose to focus on the positives. Sending hugs in your direction!!
Because Shanna Said So
Awe, sweet friend….I am so sorry that you have hot some bumps lately…we all go through crappy seasons, but I fully believe those times are the ones that teach us the most about ourselves and help us grow stronger. Believe me, I have been there. Keep your chin and please keep smiling!! It's good to see you back! xoxo
Lauren
Alissa, I am sorry to hear that you are going through some rough patches lately. It really is human nature and everyone goes through them. As cliche as it sounds, sometimes we need to go through the bad stuff to make us appreciate the good stuff that much more. I graduated university about 3 or so years ago and what I had planned to happen after graduating really wasn't what actually happened. While I did end up getting my masters, career-wise has been a bit of a struggle. But it is all a part of learning and growing, and what better time than any to figure it all out after school! Take it one day at a time. You will adjust! If you need anything girl please let me know 🙂 Also, you are the cutest thing ever in photos. Such a beautiful smile! And loving the shoes!
Lauren xo
Sophisticated In Style
Because of Jackie
On a happy note, you look so happy and full of life in these photos! I'm sorry you are on a bumpy road now, but I think that sometimes we need some hard stuff to enjoy the good…even if we can't see the reason why just yet. Hang in there;)
Rachel Lynne
I was seriously about to email you this week, I was like WHERE IS SHE?! IS SHE OKAY?! Only because you are so good at being on top of updating your blog with stories and gorgeous outfit photos. Glad you are back!I
I have now been out of college for over four years, but my emotions after graduating and settling into a new life that fall were insane and I can remember every moment of my life during that time. It is a crazy time, good and bad and if you're like me, it will take a couple years to start sorting everything out. But you will and there will be a lot OF GOOD times and positives in there! So hang in there girl!
Julie
Keep your head up! I just graduated in May, and life after college was not at all what I thought it would be. It's the first time in our lives where we don't have any direction on what to do next, and it's terrifying! I've had some serious ups and downs in the last 5 months- moving back home, unemployment, amazing travels, finding my own apartment and finally finding a full time job last week. I still have no idea what I want to do with my life, but I'm taking baby steps. Just know you're not alone; the more I talk to other people the more I realize that everyone our age is going through this too!
xo Julie
julieupstairs.wordpress.com
The Real Arnolds
You are missed and appreciated! I am glad you are back. I know I just emailed you, but I was serious.
xo, Amy Ann
The Real Arnolds
Kelsey Bang
you are so awesome! love this real life post! you are amazing! good luck with everything! you are in my prayers! and you rock plaid! looking so fab!
Nikki
I think you are amazing – your strength, your courage, your attitude, your honesty. You are a fantastic lady and a great friend! Xoxo
Nikki
thefashionablewife.com
Shannon Jenkins
Aw I've missed you! You are definitely not alone! I think everyone goes through rough patches in their lives. You just got to keep your head up because you ALWAYS get through it! I'm also a firm believer of everything happens for a reason whether it be good or bad! Ps you are looking adorable girlfriend! Love those jeans!
<3 Shannon
Upbeatsoles.blogspot.com
Ivete Correa
This is such a raw and honest post. The truth of the matter is that life can feel like a roller coaster ride at times. But know that better times will come for sure. Since I'm here now, I also don't want to pass up the chance to tell you that I love your shirt and your smile is amazing!
http://www.girlinahotcity.com
countrygirlcityfashion
I've missed your posting, Alissa, and you are in my thoughts and prayers. Thank you for sharing yourself with us!
Lindsay Truax
All the very best. You are such a dear. Believe in yourself.
pinkandnavystripes.com
Krysten Quiles
So perfectly written, I loved reading this.
Fawn
If it wasn't for the bad days, we wouldn't appreciate the good days, right? I hope things are on an upswing for you. I also wanted to say thanks for your page about curl care. I have stick straight hair, but my daughter's hair is curly, and I'm really having to educate myself on how to take care of it (she's 8). And finally, I originally came to your blog to invite you over to join the Missouri Women Bloggers community. Our goal is to gather, grow, and connect Missouri bloggers, and it's free for anyone to join in. You can just Google Missouri Women Bloggers to find the website and check it out. I would love it if you would join us!
Karly @ Miss in the Midwest
We've all missed you, girly! I hope everything is okay – I'm sending all my positive thoughts and vibes your way. Hang in there! Xo
Head to Toe Chic
I've been thinking about you!!! I hope everything is ok! I definitely know what you mean about life after graduation, but I know that everything will work out 🙂
xo,
Angela
Anna Baun
Thanking about you! And have missed you here in our little blog family! Sending you lots of positive vibes and wine when you need it! XO
Anna
alilyloveaffair.com
Jana Meister
So good to see you back! I have been wondering a lot about you lately. I noticed that you have been quite the last few weeks. I know you will make it through anything tough going on! Thinking of you and sending positive thoughts your way!
Xo Jana
http://www.janastyleblog.com
Stylin' In St. Louis
So glad to have you back! I love reading your posts! You are so great at writing them! Sending positive thoughts your way!
xo,
Jacqueline
stylininstlouis.com
Liz | Shopping My Closet
Hope everything is going towards the better!
Liz @ ShoppingMyCloset.com
My Kurves
You look the picture of Healthy & happy right here!!. . . It's called the Journey of Life and we all have to go thru it at one point or another. So, chin up chest out and keep smiling.
Kristina
I hope you're doing okay Alyssa, I'm sure you'll push and get through whatever you're going through right now.
Kristina does the Internets
Linda Quinones
I first want to say that this outfit is gorgeous. The red and blue plaid are so vibrant and it's gorgeous.
I also really like how you really put yourself out there and it really felt like I was talking to a close friend while I was reading this. I hope you're doing okay and feeling a little more hopeful! I recently just graduated from college and let me tell you, the road to graduation was a hard one and my senior year was one of the hardest times in my life. But, now that I've graduated and faced my fears I'm incredibly hopeful for the future and I keep trying to look ahead. I hope you keep moving forward and learn to smile everyday because you deserve it.
Beautiful blog!
http://www.lastylenysmile.blogspot.com
Sara Strauss {Sincerely, Sara}
Alissa, I've missed you!! I really, truly hope you're okay! I hope those unknowns turn into good certainties! If you need someone to talk to, you can always email me! I don't bite! 🙂
~Sara
Sincerely, Sara
Jeans and a Teacup
Alissa! I've missed you've! I've been checking all your social media channels to see if I missed something but I'm so glad you're back! I'm sorry that you've been having a hard time lately but thanks for sharing. It's been about 7 years since I graduated and I still haven't been able to figure things out. And I struggle with that a lot. So you aren't alone.
~Jessica
Jeans and a Teacup
EMA
You look beautiful 🙂
http://themirroronthewall.com
Pat
Oh sweetie, you don't know how good it is to see your beautiful face again. i'd been so concerned that I was wracking my brain trying to figure out who to contact to see how you were. My heart sank when I read you were going through some difficult times. Please feel free to reach out to me, I'd be more than happy to hold your hand and comfort your heart. I had also thought I already left you a comment here but alas I can't find it. The times when life takes a down turn can seem so dark, and no matter what your closest friends tell you, it can be hard to believe a better day will come. Don't worry it will, take the time to let yourself go through the necessary steps, feel what you need to feel. When you return, I know, after reading all these comments that so many of us will be rooting for you during your absence and beyond. You're a strong one, in the end you'll grow from what you've been going through. Wish I could hold you in real life, stay up late and chat, offer you endless cupcakes with frosting, and most importantly of all just be there if you need someone. I've grown to love you as a good friend, don't forget that. ttys
Elle Sees
this too shall pass. i promise.hang in there! hugs!
Ali Hval
Oh my gosh, Alissa, Alissa, Alissa! I've been thinking so much about you and where you've gone. I'm sending you the biggest internt hug right now and wishing you the best in this little detour that's been going on in your life. I'm going to be uber cliche and say that whatever it happening is going to have good outcomes, no matter how bad it may seem right now, and that things are going to work out. I'm so here for you all the time if you need to say something or just auGH anything1 I've missed your overwhelming presence and love love love you for who you are no matter what–even if you're not in the happiest state right now. (guess what? nobody can walk around shooting rainbows out their ass 24/7 or even for a whole day or sometimes even for just an hour a day) I don't know how coherent this even is, but point being: HANG IN THERE AND I LOVE YOU MY SWEET LITTLE DONUT EATER.
Charnele Michel
I'm glad your back again! Life doesn't always happen the way you plan but it gives you enough to get through each day. We have the choice to live it joyfully and continue pursuing our goals! You got this gurl! Trust me I've been there and I still haven't reached that "adored life" yet. Keep the faith 🙂
Darcy
I have been wondering where you have been! I am glad to see you are back at it. It is hard to blog when things in your life are just meh… because everything we put on the blog is generally so happy all the time. I hope things get better for you soon!
http://www.amemoryofus.com
Carmen Varner
Sometimes we need that silence to hear our own thoughts. You look happy, great, & well. :] // itsCarmen.com ☼ ☯
Anita
lovely blog 🙂
http://saltskinned.blogspot.com.au
lauren @ la petite fashionista
I feel your pain! Been dealing with some less than adore-able things myself lately. Sending you love & support <3
OmbreVogue
This look is amazing, one of my favorite looks incorporating plaid! And you have such a happy and pretty smile!!
ombrevogue.blogspot.com
Fabulously Average
Both the internet and I are happy you are back! Hope all is well:)
Tea&Sequins
So great to see you back. I've definitely taken a step back from blogging when going through personal things because, hey, sometimes you just have to. I hope you're doing better, and of course we're here for you! We miss you when you're gone 🙂
Kaitlin
http://www.teaandsequins.com
Brynn
I've been thinking of you and wondering where you've been and how you've been doing, so I was glad to see a new post from you. Sometimes life throws you a pile of crap, and it just kind of sucks. I'm glad to hear there have been some positives sprinkled in the struggles as well. Hang in there, Alissa!!
Nathy F.
Well, you'd never know it, looking at these photos, that you're going through a rough patch. I know the feelings you describe well, and I don't wish them upon anyone. Hope you feel different soon. Until then, hang in there.