Comments on: My Current Musings on Dating and “Making It Work” /dating-and-making-it-work/ Your Online BFF Helping You Navigate Life, Style, Career Development and Truly Honest, Relatable Content Wed, 13 Apr 2022 16:27:15 +0000 hourly 1 By: hmbalison /dating-and-making-it-work/#comment-19078 Wed, 13 Apr 2022 16:27:15 +0000 /?p=13530#comment-19078 I just celebrated my 35th wedding anniversary. On a dating app, I would never have chosen my husband. He wouldn’t have chosen me, either. On our first date, I went through my “list” of what I thought I wanted in a boyfriend. He met none of the criteria. Did he like music? No. Was he close to his family? No. Was he a reader? No. Physically he had a lot of body hair–a no in my book. On his end, he asked if I liked and play sports. No. Was I an adventurous traveler? No. The only thing we had in common was that we didn’t like coffee or tea. THAT’S IT! So, why did we go on a second date? Well, we’d been introduced to each other by a mutual friend who knew us both very well. My husband said he saw a spark in me and he wanted to know more. What we eventually discovered–and what has sustained us over the last 35 years–is that we have the same values regarding loyalty, honesty, trust, love, and commitment. We are very, very different, but we allow each other to be different. Our foundation is that we love, respect, and trust one other. We’ve found mutual interests to share, and we are both curious about the world. If I’d relied on an app, I would have missed out on the love of my life. I think you are wise to go your own way and navigate connecting with someone and inviting them into your life on your own terms. It’s hard to go against the tide of what everyone else is doing, but what I’ve seen from what you share on your blog is that you are doing the work and making your way. I’m cheering you on out here in cyberspace. If and when you do connect to your person, they will be very, very lucky!

]]> By: Anna /dating-and-making-it-work/#comment-19077 Wed, 13 Apr 2022 01:25:32 +0000 /?p=13530#comment-19077 ]]> “You are not too much for the right person.”

This. 100% this. I recently started a relationship with someone, and in contrast to my previous relationship, there are no eggshells. There are no forbidden topics. I am not too much. He thinks I’m incredible just as I am.

I really believe that anything can happen if you’ve done the work (which you are continuing to do) and are open to possibilities (which you also are), so I wish that for you, that you will get your epic love story. ❤

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